Domestic violence, Safety tips for victims and family members Published Aug. 3, 2006 By Patti Busser Family Advocacy outreach manager SHAW AIR FORCE BASE, S.C. -- Whether or not you feel able to leave an abuser, there are things you can do: In an emergency If you are at home and you are being threatened or attacked: -- Stay away from the kitchen (the abuser can find weapons, like knives, there). -- Stay away from bathrooms, closets or small spaces where the abuser can trap you. -- Get to a room with a door or window to escape -- Get to a room with a phone to call for help; lock the abuser outside if you can. -- Call 911 (or your local emergency number) right away for help; get the dispatcher's name. -- Think about a neighbor or friend you can run to for help. -- If a police officer comes, tell him/her what happened; get his/her name and badge number. -- Get medical help if you are hurt. -- Take pictures of bruises or injuries. -- Call a domestic violence program or shelter; ask them to help you make a safety plan. How to make yourself safer at work-- Give a picture of the abuser to security forces and friends at work. -- Tell your supervisors - see if they can make it harder for the abuser to find you. -- Don't go to lunch alone. -- Ask a security guard to walk you to your car or to the bus. -- If the abuser calls you at work, save voice mail and e-mail messages. -- Your employer may be able to help you find community resources. Protection or restraining orders -- Ask your local domestic violence program who can help you get a civil protection order and who can help you with criminal prosecution. -- Keep a copy of your court order at work. -- Ask for help in finding a lawyer.