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Chapel teaches 'boundaries'

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  • By Airman 1st Class Jonathan Bass
  • 20th Fighter Wing Public Affairs
SHAW AIR FORCE BASE, S.C. --  The 20th Fighter Wing Chapel hosted a spiritual resiliency seminar entitled Boundaries, Nov. 1.

"Boundaries," by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, was the book used as the seminar's topic. Cloud and Townsend are psychologists and have written multiple books about the topics of boundaries in life.
 
Approximately 15 people attended the event.

"Boundaries is applicable for anybody; whether you're single, married, divorced, have children, don't have children," said Chaplain (Capt.) Kathy Scott, 20th Fighter Wing Chaplain. "This is something that everybody can use."

Group discussion focused on the basic principles detailed in the book, knowing when to say yes, and how to say no when taking control of your life.

"Tonight really struck home," said Sarah Mier, Team Shaw key spouse. "I think everybody can have issues with boundaries. I was really hoping to learn a couple ways of not being a 'yes' person, still respecting myself."

Boundaries included examples and help for the home, work relationships and personal relationships.

"It's a helpful topic for anybody who's in relationships, which is anybody and everybody," said Scott. "It's basically covering where do I end and you begin? Property lines, you can think about it like that. What am I responsible for? What are you responsible for?"

The group discovered through discussion that their worlds are smaller than originally thought.

"I was really surprised of how many of us had everything in common, there were so many people who told a story, and I'm like, 'That's my story!'," said Mier.
Mier continued to say that when Scott hit home with her when she talked about owning yourself enough to say no.

"It was a transformative book for me and I hope it is for other people too," said Scott.

The chapel hosts events like this on the first Friday night of every month in conjunction with child care provided by the child development center.

Scott said she desires to see people develop an interest in both the book and the fellowship that comes from getting together and discussing life. She hopes to see "Boundaries" used as a fire starter to get people talking about what's really going on in their lives.